A little bit of contemplation was brought to mind today about a road recently traveled, and I thought I would just share my perspective on it. Considering the fact that I grew up surrounded by men, I have absolutely no issues "mustering an opinion", stating my case or "saying it like it is!"haha - and yes, there were MANY moments where I felt that URGE to "put the record straight" or throw facts in faces - but I never did, because honestly... it is seldom worth the energy!
People will think what they want irrespective, so it made more sense to simply continue on my way - being ME! Much like Steve Maraboli said... “How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day…You stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others."
We are all entitled to expression when it comes to social media (and any other circumstance in life) and in the “sharing of opinion and/or perspective” there are always two sides to the coin. There is what you share outwardly and then there is the response which you receive in return. When you share truth, fact, opinion or experience by way of your posts on social media – you are reaching and engaging with a lot of people simultaneously. It is highly unlikely that everybody is going to agree with what you have said – including occasions when the information is actually factual. Nine times out of ten, you will find that the majority of people will respond positively and will give feedback which supports such, is sensible and in line with what you have put forward… However, there are ALWAYS going to be those that will judge you, accuse you of lying, comment purely to try and get a negative rise out of you and those that just “don’t get” your message on ANY level at all!!!
If you have made a decision to share something that is of value to you or is a truth you feel strongly about and which you are hoping will hold value to those that read it, then be prepared to stand firm in that approach. If you are going to share your words with thousands of people from all over the globe, then you need to be prepared to act maturely in all instances. Yes, you are entitled to share what you want and voice your opinion and perspective – and yes, the public are allowed to respond in whichever way they choose and there is absolutely nothing wrong with engaging with the people behind both the positive and negative remarks but the key, is NOT to bet embroiled in whatever negative feedback comes your way. In other words – do not let it get to you to a degree that you become equally unruly and negative. It is an absolute waste of your time and energy!
People who approach you with such levels of immaturity, denial, bitterness or plain ugliness are unlikely to be positively responsive to anything you say– you will more often than not just end up in a ping pong match that leaves you feeling utterly frustrated and depleted! It can be difficult to just “walk away” from encounters like this, but it is normally the wisest decision to make. If you believe firmly in what it is that you have shared with the rest of the world, or you know it to be truth - then you can be open to the response of others, whether you agree with them or not, without feeling the need to repeatedly justify yourself. Now don’t get me wrong – I am not saying that you should be disregarding all response that you don’t agree with 100% or perhaps don’t understand. No, that kind of exchange and/debate "CAN BE" very healthy - what I AM saying is, you can be receptive, but don’t allow people to bully you to a point where you lose sight of what you stood for in the first place.
“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson - Personally, when I am confronted with those that are clearly just out to “get ugly” or "save face" for their wrong-doing - I will offer them one level headed response and if they respond with further aggression or anything else unwarranted, I will always do my utmost so simply walk in the opposite direction. My energy is far better channeled into something constructive. When it's hurtful – walk away! When you know they are lying – walk away!When it makes you angry – walk away! When the comments are slandering or abusive – walk away! When you are being mocked or belittled – walk away! - As it is said... ‘You don’t have to attend every argument to which you are invited’ - true story, and a lesson I am VERY GRATEFUL to have learnt!
Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
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